People who live our lives

Scientists have proven that if you ask people for their suggestion on something, you will be guided not according to your ability or the requirement of the task, but depending on their personal desire. Okay no scientist ever said that, but dont bother going into details.

Do you ever feel that your life is not your own? Like someone has the reins to the metaphorical carriage of your life? Those people, the people who direct your life become the People Who Live Your Life.

 

You may think that your life is your own and you are its keeper but with people deciding what you should or shouldn't do, can you really claim your own life?

 

Man is a Social animal and we have heard this for a million times now. He has to keep in mind that he is on good terms with people,around him, keep people happy and be a part in the growth and development of his surroundings.

In the process of trying to maintain equilibrium, he ends up getting directions from ' meaning' people which in turn suffocates him.

 

Yes the peole are well meaning, mostly in their own minds, but well meaning nevertheless. It could be your parents making you choose a certain career for umpteen reasons, your friends who expect you to behave in a certain way, your teachers shaping you in ways that they see fit or anything.

 

All this is okay. Infact, it is necessary to a certain extent. Norms of societal behaviour make idealistic people, people with wisdom, people who care about others and think about their convenience or inconvenience. And that is good!

 

The real problem arises when people crush you so much that you forget to live. Your mind is full of their words, heart scared of their disapproval, souls confused of your own being. And where does that take you? All that gives you is depression and hopelessness In life.

 

You need to live your life first. Before you listen to how people want you to do something, you should know whether you want it or not. Whether you are doing it to please someone or because you want to.

 

And I am not suggesting you to become stubborn and stop listening to anyone at all. You should be able to distinguish between whats wrong and what is right. But the basic point remains that you NEED to do what your heart wants, first of all.

You must have heard things like 'Zindagi na milegi dobara' and 'Suno sabki, karo apne man ki'. Maybe you're bored of these phrases. I wish I could rephrase it into something catchy but nevermind that.

The basic truth remains that you need to make yourself happy and satisfied before you try to impact others' lives. If you do what you desire, and it does not turn out well, you may blame yourself but atleast you'll have the satisfaction of having done it. Thats all I have to say for now. Okbie.